Discipline4boys

If you talk to a 10-year-old boy like you talk to your girlfriends, you will lose him. He speaks in action, not emotion.

Don’t say: "How do you think that made the teacher feel?" (Too abstract) Say: "You threw a pencil. The rule is respect supplies. Your consequence is sharpening all the pencils in the house. Go." discipline4boys

Don’t say: "You need to control your anger." (Too vague) Say: "Your fists are clenching. That is a warning sign. Put your hands in your pockets for two minutes or go punch the punching bag in the garage." If you talk to a 10-year-old boy like

The 30-Second Rule: When correcting a boy, keep your lecture to 30 seconds or less. After 30 seconds, his brain tunes you out like a adult in a Charlie Brown cartoon ("Wah wah wah"). The rule is respect supplies

Here is the secret that books don't tell you. You cannot discipline a boy who feels unseen. Disobedience is often a cry for connection.

Boys store stress in their muscles. A time-out on a chair rarely works. Discipline4boys must integrate the body.